What is the sting of familiar problems? Use examples in your answer.

Have you ever noticed how a fly gets trapped in a window as it tries repeatedly to move through the glass barrier? It fails to escape because it can see only one solution, which it tries over and over and over again. Unfortunately, for many people who lack psychological flexibility, failed solutions are applied repeatedly in spite of their proven ineffectiveness. Individuals with high neuroticism often have distorted reasoning and impaired decision-making processes that hinder their ability to access or use appropriate coping strategies. When they become aware that their issues and problems reoccur, rather than try new solutions, they view these repeated patterns as validating their sense of helplessness and pessimism. For example, a person might recognize that difficulties with relationships often happen to him, but his cognitions convey helplessness and despair when he thinks that he is just cursed instead of thinking, maybe I ought to try a different approach..