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Diversity
In Earlier days, Diversity was defined as Race and Ethnicity (country born in)
In today’s world, we think beyond what we see (ex: background, experiences)
Throw out the saying: “Just treat everyone as an Equal”
BUT say “I acknowledge we are different people”
this called “GENDER INTELLIGENCE”
meaning each of us can step into the other’s shoes
Male / Female Differences
ASK – What challenges do you Experience working with the other gender?
from a study of 2,000 people
M(ale):
M Need to be more careful, Inclusive
M need to be more sensitive
M feels there is reverse decimation
F(emale):
F Excluded
F Dismissed
F Tested (since M really feels we are not equal)
M is more immature, more outspoken
SCENARIOS
(If goal is self expression, good cuz easily understood since express mostly to ~ folks
(If goal is commercialization, need to be professional & know selling is more than words)
If I asked you “…”, what does that mean?
‘What do you think?’
If F asks, she wants to talk TO explore my thoughts & feelings
If a M asks, he wants to hear your opinion TO MAKE a Decision (to get closure)
“I am sorry”
F does so to make Harmony, to try & restore balance in conversation, NOT to admit fault
(Note: Females typically do this too much
M does to admit fault
Discuss accomplishments
F is reluctant to boast since thinks her work should speak for itself
(Note: Need to write down self-assessments (accomplishments) for annual reviews
M is willing to brag and be direct about taking credit
Work conversation rituals (at vending machine, coffee breaks)
F will downplay company hierarchy in order to build rapport;
loves collaboration & team-work
M loves ranks & uses competitive banter to connect
Ex: Men laughing @ bar after work meeting where they were loudly arguing
(Men feel this is how it should be & love doing it
& Work feelings do not relate to Social life)
Colleague (female) expresses a personal problem to a Male
To a M M expects to solve the issue & avoids asking for details as he respects her privacy
To a F - F will ask for details and discuss the problem to show her concern & support
Express an idea @ a meeting:
F expresses idea … and wants others to make suggestions & ask for input
If the ‘other’ is a M, he feels she is indecisive
M expresses idea … he wants others to agree and act on his idea
If the ‘other’ is a F, she sees him as a dictator
TIP: Listener needs to Change How You Address the speaker’s idea
Success means ..
F feels Valued / appreciated by the team EVEN if her team looses
F defines ‘success’ to be If you did your best
M feels ONLY if he WINS … that’s all that counts ( true in the business world)
ASK: Have you ever considered the opposite sex might take things differently? What are the Pros? Cons?
Pros: Research shows there are more Successful results from
Seeing things differently; Interacting differently
Ex: If F in a group w Males, she feels the group needs to stay on task & the topic is word
ASK: How can you personally use these insights to communicate more effectively on your team & in your future?
