Fighting fair means which of the following?
a. fighting so as not to hurt the partner or damage the relationship after the disagreement
b. fighting only with individuals who have as much power as you have
c. hurting the other person's feelings as much as he or she has hurt your feelings
d. choosing a neutral third party to act as a referee during an argument (e.g., mediator)
Ques. 2What should you say when your partner tells you something you do that upsets him/her?
a. use a defense mechanism
b. take it as an opportunity to give your partner negative feedback
c. reinforce the process of communication by thanking your partner for telling you
d. gently change the topic of the conversation to something more positive
Ques. 3All of the following are ways of exercising power in a relationship EXCEPT:
a. withdrawal
b. blackmail
c. physical abuse
d. branching
Ques. 4A message is congruent when:
a. it makes a request for change in the future
b. it conveys respect for the other person's feelings and opinions
c. the verbal and nonverbal behavior match
d. it reflects a balance of power in the relationship
Ques. 5Branching refers to which of the following?
a. a technique for generating solutions to a conflict
b. applying one solution to several problems
c. admitting that you are at fault
d. not staying focused on an issue
Ques. 6Nancy was criticizing Mike for being chronically late but ended up criticizing him for his alcohol abuse, cheating, and lying. Her attack on him is an example of:
a. nonreciprocal nagging
b. branching
c. You statements
d. I statements
Ques. 7Suppose you and your partner are discussing where the two of you will go for spring break. You want to go to the beach; your partner wants to visit family. Your partner says to you: You don't want to visit my family because you don't like my parents.. Which of the following is an example of a reflective statement that you could make?
a. You aren't exactly thrilled about my parents either..
b. I do so like your parents..
c. Let's talk about this later when we haven't been drinking
d. You feel that I don't like your parents..